"About Me"

Hi,

My name is Tanja, I'm 35 and I live in beautiful Australia with my partner and our two gorgeous little boys.

Never did I think I'd ever have relationship problems allowing to lose myself in the midst of it all and become so unhappy.

But then I discovered in my desperate need for relationship help, the internet.

It was then I learnt; a successful and happy relationship does not just happen, it takes skill.

One of the most important skills I learnt, was I had to find myself again. To be in a happy relationship began with me - how I feel, how I look and how I act and more importantly how I respond. I then discovered I had to become the woman men adore and the woman I want to be.

Let me rewind to when things didn't go quit to plan...

After having two children and being at home my focus became my partner and our relationship.

When I met my partner I knew he was the one I was going to marry and have my children with. He was (and still is) a wonderful man and partner. I was 30 when we met. A year and a half later I began to panic. I began to panic, thinking I was getting too old to have children. Silly really but that's how I felt then.

Afterall, having a marriage, children and a family was and still is very important to me. I hate to admit it but I became so focused on having children. Purely out of fear I'd never have children and I'd get too old to have children.

My partner wanted to have children too but marriage wasn't a time issue with him nor as important to him. But for some reason I just assumed we'd get married. Then disappointed when my partner hadn't asked me to marry him. (As I had just assumed)

When I was pregnant with our second child our relationship began to fall apart.

For a short while our relationship went well, then we'd disconnect, then it was o.k again, then we'd become even more distant. This was our cycle.

I criticised my partner, told him what to do, how things should be done, played the victim that it's all him and not me, I didn't express my feelings and bottled them up to the point of resentment, I was emotional, I was needy, I was insecure - I'd lost myself.

My partner began to control me too and was rude and distant with me - we both didn't express our feelings and bottled it all up to the point of resentment. Though we rarely had loud arguments with one another we had a lot of silence. The atmosphere and the energy around us was very cold. I remember my parents didn't even like coming over anymore. Through the put on smiles they could feel the ice between us.

One night when all were asleep...

I had a glass of red wine and began to search the internet for relationship help. I knew something had to change or eventually, I'd lose my partner and our little family forever.

I remember finding something that instantly captured my eye. Infact I was ready to try anything to captivate my partners heart back. It all began with "What Husbands Can't Resist."

You can discover more in my marriage tips section.

Our main problem was that we didn't know how to communicate effectively with one another, express our feelings, listen to one another and we had no idea how to negotiate with one another. We both bottled everything up.

We were both at an end - emotionally exhausted from this toxic relationship we created.

That's when I also discovered I was overfunctioning.

Our relationship began to change for the better

I did alot of reading, took notes in my journal, combined and applied the methods I was learning...step by step.

I began to change - I started feeling so much more confident, happier and I was feeling so much more relaxed around my partner.

I began to express my feelings, changed my actions, responded differently to him, let him be and began to focus more on myself - what makes me happy. You can read more about how I reconnected with my partner in my reconnect your relationship section.

I joined the gym, I enjoyed a girls evening out a little more often, I changed my hair colour, I got back into my profession (wedding hairstylist) which I enjoy doing on the weekends and I discovered SBI.

The program I use to build womens-relationship-success.com which I started end of 2008. I began to write because I wanted to help women like myself find relationship advice that really works.

The vibe of my relationship changed instantly when my vibe changed and by using a few very simple methods. My partner began to talk to me more, show more affection and for the first time in a long time we were finally reconnecting.

Today we have an even better relationship than I would have ever imagined. Even now I still continue to apply the incredible relationship methods you can learn from the relationship experts in Womens-Relationship-Success.com.

I'll keep you posted but for now we're just enjoying being a couple again.

You can have the relationship you want and deserve even if it didn't quite go to plan.

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