"Why Calling Men Can Make It Or Break It With Him"

Many Dates Or Even Relationships Fail When The Woman Starts Calling, Texting Or Emailing Him

Calling men leaves women with questions, doubts, fears and the hope you didn't say something you'll regret after your first telephone conversation with him.

It's no secret. Like everything else in dating and relationships there is a skill to calling, texting and emailing men.

Why?

Because men are different to women.

• Don't know if you should call him after your first date or not?
• Don't know what to say to him?
• Don't know how often to call him?

Calling men can be heart pounding, stressful, frustrating and nerve wrecking.

You've met a great guy and you've gone on a wonderful date with him. Now as the good girl you are you should be waiting for him to call you?

Am I right?

Some women may argue and ask, "Why can't I call him first?"

Well if a guy has asked you out then it's you, who should be waiting for the next call from him. If you call him first you'll most likely put yourself in a lower position. That to him comes across as needy and anxious which really is a turn off for men.

Men like to be the initiator in this situation. If he doesn't call he's most likely not interested. So why chase him? Even if you really liked him there are plenty of other men out there and you never know he still might change his mind - if he's not too late.

So why is something as easy as calling men, text messaging and emailing such a delicate situation?

As I mentioned before men and women are different. Men come from Mars and women come from Venus especially when it comes to communication.

Nothings worse than to call up a man you really like and are interested in, only then to get the response of him not being very interested on the other end of the line.

So here are a few calling men tips you can follow to keep him chasing you...

"Calling Men Tips"

1. As you know, first wait for him to call you after your first date or even after your relationship breakup.

So after he's called what do you say?

2. First of all drop everything you're doing so you can focus on the conversation with him and you're not multi-tasking.

3. Talk softly yet confidently with him and make sure you smile. This will all come across to him on the other end as your tone of voice changes when you smile.

4. He'll probably ask, how you are and this is a good time to say, I'm feeling really good today and you? Put the ball back in his court and use the word feeling as it is a powerful word. By expressing him how you feel you open your heart to him.

5. Don't drag out the conversation for too long as you want to avoid babbling unnecessary stuff with him. Stay in control of the conversation.

6. If he's calling you for the first time after a breakup and you want to get him back - do not ask him anything about the breakup in your first conversation with him. If he brings it up just say to him, "It feels great to hear from you, we can talk about this another time?" He'll feel grateful and the pressure is off him for that time.

7. Remember you're talking to a man your interested in and not your girlfriends. So don't tell him what happened yesterday on your favourite TV show, gossip, ex boyfriends and talking about emotional details in your life. Men get very uncomfortable with emotional pain and it's not necessary in the first after date phone conversation with him. Be yourself and don't try and be overflirtateous with him.

8. A conversation with him should flow naturally. So talk about neutral topics and ask him questions about himself. Men love to talk about themselves. Ask him about his work, sports and interests.

9. Don't reveal too much about yourself as you want to keep him curious too. Men like to work to get you. If you're too easy they lose interest quicker. So let him chase you.

10. Once you begin dating and talking more on the phone remember to always keep him curious. Though you'll feel excited don't call him more than he calls you. Let him call you more than you call him. Remember to continue taking care of you and your life and not let him become your focus. Otherwise you will run the risk of losing him very quickly. Men sense this and are quickly turned off as you come across to him as desperate and needy.

Discover all this and more in Calling Men by Mimi Tanner and have the irresistible power to keep him interested and continue calling you.