"How Attractive You Look Alone Won't Let You Keep Him. If You Do Want To Keep Him And Have A Happy, Healthy Relationship Then It All Begins With You"

Let's tackle the two questions!

"So what do men find attractive in a woman?"

Men are attracted to all types of women (thank goodness for that)!

However...

"Men are truly attracted and stay interested in women who connect to his heart emotionally"

"There is something much deeper that attracts a man to a woman and keeps him interested and his love alive for you so you can have a happy, healthy relationship"

When you connect with him emotionally you attract him to his heart.

And that I admit is not easy to do. But with patience and practice this is, what men want from women. It really is.

Think about it?

How many women have you seen who are gorgeous but can't keep a man interested or committed to her but the "girl next door" type can?

If you want to attract a man or even keep your partner or husband attracted to you, it doesn't totally rely on how great your clothes, make-up or hair looks. Though men are visual he will be more far more impressed by something much more powerful - your smile.

"The key to being irresistible to a man is to open your heart first"

How do you do that?

Well, a healthy relationship and for him to stay attracted to you - begins with YOU!

Dating, a relationship and marriage begin with you and how you feel about yourself, express yourself, respond to him and the signals you give him.

If you’re not happy with your dating life, how your relationship or marriage is going, then it's time you learnt to build up your confidence and self esteem and started taking care of you again. I'll get to that soon but first we'll look at...

"Why is having the healthy relationship you want sometimes so difficult?"

Well, because it's fear you let get in the way.

Fear of not being loved, fear of love and then potentially getting hurt, fear of intimacy, fear of not having the relationship or life you desire and fear of not communicating how you truly feel.

If you let fear take control it stops you from taking risks, fear holds back how you feel, fear doesn’t allow you to speak the truth how you feel and what you want and fear scares you to live your life’s full potential.

The change in you begins by taking the risk to change your old patterns and try something new. Step by step, day by day and get back on the the highway of love once you’ve had some time out for yourself.

Whatever the situation you’re in, whether it be you want to get your marriage or relationship back on track, get your ex back or even find mr right you must take time out for yourself.

And yes you must do this even if you're in a marriage or relationship. I'm not telling you to pack up your bags and move out. Even if you're in a relationship all you need to do is take your focus off your husband or partner, take your focus off your relationship and start enjoying you and your life again.

Why?

After being in a long relationship of 7 years myself to being single again I remembered it as being very scary. Afterall, that feeling and comfort of having a loved one around me was then gone. It truly was scary being alone again after so many years and all I wanted was to feel that love from that someone special again.

Ultimately isn’t that what most of us want? To be loved and in return give love back? To be with that one special person and have a healthy relationship with him?

As the days and weeks went by and my heart had some time to heal I decided, just for awhile, I wanted to take care of me. And I‘m so glad I chose that path. I decided I didn’t want a boyfriend and I didn’t want to be in a committed relationship, at least for a little while.

This is where the rebound relationship for many women comes in. Many women jump from one relationship to another out of pure fear they won’t feel and be loved. For many women this is where the bad boys comes into their lives.

"Instead you need to start by making a decision.That just for a while, you are going to put searching for that someone special on hold and start living your own life, at least just for a little while. Or if you are in a relationship just pull back a bit and start taking care of you again and you will discover you can begin to repair your relationship. This is very important because you need to start discovering YOU again"

If you're feeling unconfident and you're not happy with yourself you'll attract exactly that into your life - experiences, situations, people and even men.

You'll attract men who are depressed in their own life, men who are not truly interested in you or want to commit to you or men who identify with you and want to try and fix you, instead of themselves. Or if you're unhappy and unconfident with yourself men will pick up on this very quickly and lose interest, no matter how great you look.

Truth is, you're going to attract what you feel about yourself.

If however you are smiling, confident yet still vulnerable and you open your heart to him, he will keep chasing you and stay interested in you

You can turn yourself and even your relationship around from being insecure to magnetic!

If you're married or in a relationship you can still learn to take care of yourself and reconnect your relationship with valuable methods that teach you to connect with yourself, stop him from withdrawing and build a healthy relationship.

"Men love you by how he feels about you and not what he thinks about you"

This is the time you have to ask yourself some very important questions whether you're single, in a relationship or married?

Such as…

• What goals do I have?
• Do I want to travel?
• What do I want to achieve in my life?
• What kind of man do I want to be with?
• Do I want marriage?, What sort of marriage or relationship do I want?
• Do I want a family?
• and so on...

In that time I did a scuba diving course, I travelled some more, I worked a lot and had a lot of girl fun.

I was happy and I was feeling good about myself and I knew what I wanted.

A year and a half later after enjoying being single I decided one morning, I didn’t want to be single anymore. I then made up my mind I wanted to fall in love again and be in a committed relationship.

My housemate at the time also wanted to fall in love again and this is when I discovered you can ask the universe for help.

My housemate called the universe the goddesses and though I always believed in angels since my childhood and I always knew there was something “magical” out there, I never thought to just simply ask the universe for guidance. But whatever you believe in, it doesn’t really matter just as long as you believe.

So we began to write. We wrote a letter. Not just any letter but a letter to the universe about the type of man we want to have a committed relationship with. Then we took our letter, went outside and burnt it. Watching the ashes blow it away.

I’d always think about what I wrote in that letter and the type of man I’d be with and it made me feel good. Especially when I was feeling down.

"It’s important when your thoughts are negative or your mood is low to switch your thoughts to positive thoughts. The positive thoughts of what you want in your relationship and begin to manifest a healthy relationship"

So I began to date again with the full intentions of meeting a man I would marry and have a family with. I wanted to meet a man and be a keeper and not just a play thing for him.

When I read this in Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man it was like déjà vu for me. I was doing something right then.

Four months after writing my letter and dating he (my partner now) walked into my work place. When I saw him I gasped and new right away, he was the man from my letter. It really worked. We dated and he was a complete gentleman.

But then...

A year and a half later into our relationship my fear took over. My fear of getting too old to have children and never having children began to scare me. Though my partner and I discussed children, I never asked him about marriage. I just assumed if he wanted children he’d ask me to marry him.

If I knew what I know now about communicating, feelings and to not to just assume things, our relationship would have led to far less confusion, disappointment, conflict and been a healthy relationship. That’s why 1000 questions to ask your boyfriend, partner or husband is so important.

So turn your relationship around, turn your marriage around, change your dating patterns, find the right man for you or get him back – it all begins with YOU!!!

Unfortunately I did fall into the trap of losing myself in our relationship once we had children. Though a relationship always takes two to make it work I learnt (before it was too late) to understand men and I changed me into the woman men do adore.

Like all relationships we have our issues here and there but now I know how to handle the conflicts, how to confidently tell my partner how I feel and how to feel really good about myself.

"You can become the siren woman men are attracted to"

By being powerful yet still soft you will get the love you crave from him and have the healthy relationship you so desire with him.

You will become the woman he will adore and continue to adore once you know how to continually capture his heart and create a healthy relationship.