How Do I Get Him Back!

I must admit, when I began writing it wasn’t my intention to

write about how to win a man back. No, the idea came to me from

the women who bought my first book,“The Woman Men Adore and

Never Want to Leave.” Many of them took me up on my offer of a

Free 15-minute coaching session and one of the most frequent

complaints or concerns I heard from these women was in regard to

them being in a relationship with someone–be it for three weeks

all the way up to six months––where it seemingly was going well

and then by most women’s accounts, the guy just seemed to

suddenly lose interest. Most of these women were befuddled as to

why. It got to the point where I started tracking the

percentage of calls that actually ended up being related to this

very topic, and it ended up around 90%. I realized that there

was actually a phenomenon––a pattern––going on with so many

women in relationships and they seemed to have the same

questions:

What happened?

What did I do wrong?

What’s wrong with him?

How can I get him back?

Can I get him back or is it too late?

They seemed totally dumbfounded that someone who seemingly

was interested in them, most of the time even passionately,

could simply lose all interest and lose all desire in a

relationship.

So rather than just continuing to talk to these women one-on-

one, this book is an effort to reach the women that I am not

going to be able to talk to on the phone, those that aren’t

going to be able to come into my office, and to give some

insights as to how this pattern happens and what contributions a

woman makes in the breakup and what remedies or techniques they

can use to help bring a man back. Now before I get into

specifics, there has to be one starting point that you, the

reader, must acknowledge, and that is that it is possible that

no matter how perfect the techniques you use, how thoroughly you

understand them, that a particular man may not return to you

simply because of his own fears or his own insecurities or he

has been hurt too much by you or by someone else. In other

words, we can’t totally control the outcome, because the only

way you could get any man back every time would be if you, the

reader, would be willing to do ANYTHING to get a man back, even

demeaning and degrading things which are beneath you. When I

explained this to a woman one-on-one when I was talking with

her, she said, “Well, what exactly do you mean?” I answered, “If

you want to get him back under any circumstance, call him up or

write him and tell him that you would be willing to have sex

with him whenever he wants, however he wants, under any

circumstances.”

She paused for a second as she thought about what I had just

said and responded, “You mean I would be a prostitute.” To which

I replied, “Yes, but you would get him back.” Now most men would

agree to a relationship on those terms. But, of course, that

isn’t what a woman wants when they say “having him back”. So

there are going to be some parameters that you have to put on

it. I don’t think that when women say they want a man back,

what they really want is him back under any circumstances. And

because there are going to be unpredictable circumstances, the

man may not come back.

Now I don’t say this to be discouraging. I don’t in any way

mean to imply that the odds are almost impossible to get a man

back. That’s not what I mean at all. It’s just that trying to

win a man back takes time and effort and there isn’t going to be

one phrase or one particular thing that you can do. What you are

about to read has been used to rekindle relationships for

centuries and when properly implemented it is most difficult for

a man to resist. This is a man’s heart we’re talking about, the

core of his being, and if he has left you, there is usually a

lot going on inside of his heart that he might not even be aware

of, that he’s trying to avoid. It is such a powerful thing to

turn a man’s heart that in most cases his heart has to warm up,

he has to lower his guard, his fear and his adrenaline have to

die down before he can begin to warm up to the process of

reconciling with a former girlfriend or a separated spouse. As

you can tell, what I am trying to do for you, the reader, is

prepare you to take this seriously. If this is the man you want

back in your life, then begin to prepare yourself for a process

that will probably take weeks instead of days. Now there are

some exceptions to this but, by and large, turning a man’s heart

for a lifetime will require a patient and methodical approach

from a woman. We cannot flood a man’s heart with emotion to win

him back like you can a woman’s. You can’t give him gifts…you

can’t shower him with sweetness and love…that doesn’t work with

men. Men do not flow as well in the emotional realm as women

do.

Men run from emotions, especially emotions that are too

intense. Creating more emotions is like putting gasoline on a

fire. We are trying to get the fire inside of him to go down.

If the fire represents his fears, we are trying to be able to

calm that down, slow it down just so that he will let us get

closer. You know, I offer another example of how this works to

women. When a small child is upset, you comfort and you console

them, but there are times when they are upset, when the more you

comfort and console them, the more upset they get. Sometimes

with a child, what they need is for the adult to say, “You’re

okay. No, calm down, nothing is going to hurt you,” and to be a

little firm while them learn how to contain those feelings.

Most of the time soothing is wonderful when someone is upset,

but sometimes soothing makes it worse. Men, in general, when

they are upset and overwhelmed, do not respond well soothing

because they feel that you are talking to them as though they

are a child. Most men have the emotional aptitude of a child. I

don’t mean this as a put down, but they are just not wired for a

flood of feelings like women are. So now that you have accepted

the fact, hopefully, that this is going to take a while, if we

are going to turn the man’s heart that you want back towards

you, now we can begin to talk and lay some groundwork as to how

we are going to do it.

Did you like what you have read so far?

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-How to know exactly what type of man is good for you.

-The most common causes of a breakup.

-What women frequently do that ruins any chance of getting him back.

-What you can do even if he hasn’t made contact with you.

-What causes a man to want to get back with you.

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