How To Find The Man
of Your Dreams!

Introduction

Chapter 1 - Knowing What You Want 7

Chapter 2 - Where To Find Your Man 27

Suggestion One: Men Love Golf 30

Suggestion Two: Consider a part-time job working in a man’s clothing store 32

Suggestion Three: Habitually visit the library and/or neighborhood bookstore 34

Suggestion Four: The Internet 39

What Makes For Successful Internet Dating? 40

Chapter 3 - Prepare Your Heart 48

Chapter 4 - Now You’re Ready To Get Noticed 59

Chapter 5 - Once You Get A Date 67 The Second Date 77 The Third Date 84

Chapter 6 - The First Three Months 91 The Argument Women Can’t Win 92 Your Secret Weapon 95

Chapter 7 - The Second Three Months 100

Chapter 8 - Months Six Through Twelve 103

Chapter 9 - Final Thoughts 108

Suggested Reading 110

About the Author 111

I want to tell you something. Regardless of what you have been

through, it is possible to have a wonderful man want to marry

you. I know because every year I get the privilege of seeing

some of my clients have a wonderful man walk right into their

life. For some, it’s the result of having a carefully crafted

plan that they follow regardless of how silly or insecure they

might feel implementing it. Others simply take a look into their

past and realize how they have been unconsciously sabotaging

their deepest desire to find love. Once the realization comes to

them that attracting a man is pretty simple, love seems to find

them, almost as though it was waiting on them right around the

corner.

Perhaps you’ve heard such optimistic stories before and

wonder if what you are about to read is nothing more than just a

repackaged assortment of clichés such as, “You need to go out

and meet more people,” or “You just haven’t found the right man”

and my personal favorite, “If you weren’t so picky, you’d be

married by now.”

I promise you’ll find none of that here. This book is about

you getting results because nothing else really matters, does

it? If you simply wanted to feel good about yourself and remain

single, you certainly wouldn’t be reading this book. Every

single woman I have ever counseled has experienced the feelings

of loneliness when their friends are getting married and they

are not. One client described it to me like this, “It feels like

all my friends were invited to a party and I didn’t get an

invitation.” It’s a feeling that is rarely discussed but

universally felt by single women across the world.

It feels lonely sometimes, and hopeless, and no matter how

hard someone tries, when these feelings arise within a woman, it

is inevitable for her to wonder to herself, “Is there something

wrong with me?” Or sometimes the question is, “Am I doing

something wrong?”

Regardless of whatever questions or fears or doubts have

come into your mind, you are going to learn how to attract and

marry a wonderful man. If you noticed that I didn’t say ‘the man

that you want,’ then your observation is very keen. For now I am

going to suggest that you may or may not know what type of man

you really want. If you’ve dated the same type of man for years

without getting married, it might be that you truly don’t know

what type of man is good for you. Even if you don’t, it doesn’t

matter because, by the end of this book, you will know exactly

what you are looking for and will never fear ending up with the

wrong man.

For this to be successful I need something from you. It is

absolutely essential that you maintain an open and curious mind

throughout this entire process. If you are not getting the

results that you want, then it is highly probable that you are

doing something wrong and you must be willing to change either

yourself, the way you present yourself, or even your choice of

the type of man that you’re selecting.

The reason I feel so confident is that I offered a free 15-

minute coaching session with the purchase of my first book, The

Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave. Through those hundreds

of mini-sessions, I observed that every woman was in some way

contributing to their lack of success. Women do not marry the

man of their dreams by accident. Some can tell you how they did

it, while others just have an inner knowledge that enables them

to attract men like flies. Rather than continue to speak to

women one at a time, it became obvious to me that I needed to

write a book that showed every woman exactly how to attract the

man of their dreams.

Here is a phrase that would save a lot of women countless

heartaches when it comes to dating: Start before you date or

it’s too late. By the time you are on your first date, a lot of

things are already in place. Once you are out with someone, all

your fears, insecurities and hopes are already in motion. No

matter how much you think you’re going to be rational, you can’t

be if you really like him. You’ll give him some indication that

you like him and make it easy for him to captivate your heart.

Once your emotions take over, forget about being rational.

If, on the other hand, you have a pretty clear idea as to

what type of man you are looking for, the type of

characteristics he needs to possess, and you have a brutally

honest assessment of who you are, you’ll save yourself untold

hours of anguish during your dating, because you won’t have to

try to figure things out as you go along when you have all of

your emotions mixed up in the process.

Once you go on a date, it should be fairly effortless

because your objective really is to see if he’s any fun. We’re

going to begin by finding out exactly what type of man you want

to marry. I’m going to ask you some questions which will enable

you to discover a more accurate view of the type of man you want

to end up. Otherwise you will simply be practicing trial and

error dating.

So, let’s begin with the idea that within a month to six

months, somewhere in there, you’re going to be meeting someone

wonderful. If that seems too long, then let me remind you that

getting what you really want is always worth the wait. Now I’m

not saying it has to take a month to six months, if someone

wonderful pops into your life tomorrow, by all means, act on

it. But if you’ve had any trouble finding the person who is in

your heart, it usually means that your actions are incongruent

with your beliefs. Something you’re doing or not doing is

causing your dreams to not manifest.

Do you think this sounds too hocus-pocus? I promise you, any

therapist, psychologist or coach who has had success working

with singles will echo my statements. It’s not something I have

made up. There’s a reason why some women are lucky at love and

some women seem to struggle, even though both of them are

similar in appearance. Since you can’t often see the difference,

it must be an unseen quality that separates the successful women

from those who struggle with getting and maintaining a

relationship with a man. What’s on the inside of someone has a

large impact on how lucky they are on drawing someone into their

life.

If you describe yourself as being a “black and white”

person, you are going to need to expand your thinking.

Relationships are rarely “black and white.” There isn’t one

perfect method that works with every man, every time. If there

were, you would have already discovered it by now. What is true

is that there are principles that can be learned that will

nearly always produce the results you desire. I would be remiss

with you not to bring this to your attention because my goal is

to help you get what you want. I’m not telling you what you have

to pick in a man. You tell me what characteristics you want in

your man, and that’s our goal. So let’s go over a few

generalizations.

Did you like what you just read?

Can you imagine what your life would be like if you met the

man of your Dreams?

There’s no need to wait, you can have this e-book and a FREE 15-

minute coaching session with Bob Grant, L.P.C. now.

Why wait any longer and discover more on how to find the man of your dreams



return from How To Find The Man Of Your Dreams page to First Date Tips page

New! Leave Your Comments