"How To Mend
Your Marriage Problems!"

Then remember this...

"Mend a Marriage Don't End it!"

Even though it's a quote from the movie "Marley and Me" it really is an inspiring quote.

A marriage takes two and when marriage problems arise then it’s never the fault of just one.

I know your husband may be an insensitive jerk at times and he may very well have ignited the marriage conflict you may be having but how did you react? Did you...

• Storm out of the room?
• Cry and sulk?
• Scream and yell at him?
• Give him the silence treatment?
• Throw something at him?

How ever way you reacted, most likely it would have been an emotional reaction because that’s how women initially deal with marriage problems.

Women are so much more in tune with their feelings and emotions than men and that’s where we have to be one step ahead. I know it sounds like we have to do most of the hard work and the truth is, we do! Women are better capable of understanding men because you are in tune with your emotions.

Your emotions also send mixed signals to your husband making it difficult for him to understand what you want.

So what does your husband want from you?

"How to handle an argument in a marriage conflict"

All couples have conflicts with one another, even the best of relationships and marriages.

When couples don't have the vital how to argue skills, they immediately disconnect emotionally. Why? because they don't know how to handle the conflict. So the arguments, the blaming, the criticising and the emotional pain begins.

"Defining and Acknowledging your Marriage Problems"

It's crucial for you and your partner to admit and aknowledge the problems you are having. A big problem for most is the lack of communication, not listening to one another and not knowing how to negotiate.

Another big problem for many couples is frustrations being dumped on one another because you're not happy with yourself, your life and the way your relationship is going.

Whatever the marriage problems you're having they can be resolved if you are both willing to...

• Define the problems
• Acknowledge the problems
• Work at resolving them
• And know the skills of how to argue with your partner better

Learn how to argue effectively with your husband and still stay connected emotionally

When a marriage conflict arises your tone of voice will also affect your marriage conflict. Find out why arguing is beneath a woman.

And What If...

There is no intimacy or romance left in your marriage?

And Why is sex so important to him?

For those of you with children, don't ever have a loud argument about your marital issues in front of your children. No matter how old they are.

Not only do you scare them but children often take in your issues as something ten times worse and even feel your arguing is somehow their fault. Not only that but they learn from your bad behaviour and it will affect them.

He needs respect

While women need to feel love from their husband your husband wants to feel respected.

Presenting yourself

How you act and present yourself in front of his friends, colleagues and family is very important to him.

He just doesn’t get it!

How many times have I said that, or have I heard that from my girlfriends. What’s for us self explanatory isn’t always the case for your husband! Many times you just have to tell him what you expect because he can’t always know – that’s just how it is. And to be honest he'll be happy you did when you know how he thinks.

If his imperfections or habits seriously annoy you then you'll have to tactfully point this out to him before it becomes another one of your major marriage problems. Otherwise if you just leave it and say nothing you may run the risk of him distancing himself from you if you constantly nag him. Nobody is perfect and accepting one another's imperfections is a part of your relationship.

Taking Time-Out

Let your husband take time out with his hobbies and mates while you do the same. Men need time out to clear their heads just as women let out their emotional stress on their girlfriends.
Take time out for yourself, as a couple and if you're a family, take that time out to be a family.

Don't Always Be So Serious - Have Fun Together

Men hate to be mothered or nagged. They already have a mother, they want a wife or girlfriend who will literally "WOW" them. So don't always just focus on what's wrong with him but focus more on whats good about him and you will soon see the problems begin to resolve. Remember what you focus on is what you get.

Learn more on how to reconnect with your husband with effective methods that will have him chasing you

"Don’t put up with behaviour that’s unacceptable to you"

For example if your husband physically abuses and you're at an emotional end; then you need to get help immediately.

This is an illness. There are help lines, psychologists, community counsellors, churches and even the police are there to support you.

Never let your self-esteem, confidence and self worth be broken down by your husband or anyone for that matter. Don't ever allow a man to "break you" - mind, body and soul.

"What do you do if your marriage is in serious big trouble?"

It is heading to either accepting how it is and being miserable or leaving him and breaking your family apart. Before you make any decisions it may be worth reading this first.

"Your husband wants to make you happy"

Most husbands and partners in general want nothing more, than to make you happy and his family happy. If you’re happy he’s succeeded and if you're happy he's happy.

"You, as a woman should always view yourself as being attractive, confident, positive, worthy and valuable"

If however you continue to constantly complain about yourself instead of doing something about it, acting needy, playing the victim, mothering and smothering him, telling him what to do, you will evetually run the risk of pushing your husband away.

Stop overfunctioning and begin to get the love you want from him

You’ll always have to work on your marriage but once you have the skills it's so much easier, relaxing and alot more fun.

Life’s too short to be in an unhappy marriage with marriage issues, marriage trouble and marriage problems constantly building up. Just by understanding men better you'll understand your husband and even save your marriage.

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